There are key differences between the type of woman that a man is just attracted to and the type of woman that he falls head over heels in love with and can’t wait to commit to. Which of the two women would you prefer to be?
If it is the second one, then today’s article will be a game-changer for you.
It is important to understand that attraction and love do NOT necessarily go hand in hand.
Most women believe that attraction equates with physical beauty, age, status, etc. But this is completely false. High-Value women understand that physical beauty is not enough to keep a man in the long run and this is why they seek to learn and understand men on a deeper level.
You probably know that physical attraction is important to men and this is definitely true. Men are more visual than you are so they will be attracted to your body and the way that you look. The problem is that physical attraction is cheap attraction.
It is simply not that valuable.
This is why your superficial qualities are not enough to truly interest a high-value man. Sure, he may appreciate your physical attributes and he will probably want to sleep with you – but nothing more than that. He won’t fall in love, feel an emotional attachment, or desire to commit to you if he simply finds you beautiful.
What really interests a high-value, and makes him fall in love and invest everything in you is your depth and your energy.
Here is the thing, lovely. Physical attraction is fleeting – temporary, and most importantly it does not lead to long term love. Physical attraction is short term attraction. When you do things like…
- Rely on your physical attraction
- Play hard-to-get
- Use games to make him want you
- Expect HIM to put you on a pedestal …and do anything deliberately just so that he gives you more attention, he will sense it and be repelled by it.
A short skirt might make him chase you, yes, but on a pure instinctual level. In that case, he will be simply acting on his instinct to dominate and to overcome a challenge – but he will also lose interest very quickly.
When you interest him on an emotional level, however, it is an entirely different ball game. Attracting him on an emotional level is what gets him to fall head over heels in love and commit his whole heart to you. Emotional attraction is what most men truly want deep down in their core. The problem is that most women have no idea how to trigger that emotional attraction.
Low Value Women resort to physical attraction alone
Women can be low value (or at least come across that way) just like men can. This is why it is very important that you are intentional with how you look and the way you behave around men.
A high-value man needs more than physical attraction. Even if he has a superficial attraction to her, he will never pursue a committed relationship with her.
Women spend so much time and money on pounds of makeup, the perfect outfit, and designer handbags. In reality, this comes from a false assumption that these things will bring them the love that they truly want.
I am not saying that you should not care about your appearance. It is definitely important to be well groomed, have healthy skin, hair, and so on. This is because these things are the outward cues of your femininity and men pay attention to them.
But you should learn not to rely on your appearance alone – do not waste all of your energy on meaningless ways of finding love and then wonder why it is not working. Invest in yourself instead and educate yourself on what truly works. THAT is what will bring you results.
Do not fall into the trap of thinking that physical beauty is what it takes to attract a superman. Some of the most “beautiful” women in the world have had the most unsuccessful, unhappy relationships.
The women who spend time perfecting themselves physically do this out of fear of not being enough. They are afraid of not being seen. What all women really want is for their SOUL to be seen, not just their physicality. What all women truly want is love and devotion.
The problem is that most women do not know how to attract and keep a man with their femininity, their energy, and their understanding of men and relationships …and this is takes more work than putting on some lipstick.
How to create lasting emotional attraction
Learn to embrace and get in touch with your most feminine energy. Your feminine energy is what attracts men like moths to a flame because they have an abundance of masculine energy, which is the opposite.
Feminine energy is about being in a relaxed state and coming from a place of love as much as possible – that is what men are universally attracted to. For more on how to understand men and be a feminine woman, download the free guide Secrets of a High-Value Woman here.
What a high-value man really wants is a feminine, yin woman who is roughly 80% feminine and 20% masculine. This is an energetically balanced woman. She is the woman that knows how to create deep emotional attraction and keep a man forever. See this post on how to be the most attractive, energetically balanced feminine woman.
A High-Value Woman is the most desirable woman to men because she has the energy of a radiant, light-hearted, feminine woman.
This is the secret– the way that you make a man feel around you is everything.
That is why it is important for you to show up as the woman that makes him feel good vibes around you. He wants to FEEL your vibrant energy when you walk into the room. He wants to see you smile, be happy, be bold, while at the same time allowing him to be his masculine self.
The more positive emotional experiences he has around you, the more intensely he will be attracted to you and the more likely it is that he will see you as long-term material.
Your job is to balance the Yin and Yang
If you want to create deep emotional attraction with a man of your dreams then what you should be doing is spending time and effort on the cultivation of your feminine energy, which is the yin energy.
As a woman you must learn to live in your yin, feminine energy when you are with a man. This means learning to be happy without having to do anything or to rush anywhere. Most importantly, without feeling guilty about anything (yes, you heard me, lovely!) Your natural state as a woman is that of relaxation, acceptance, and love.
That is the true essence of the yin energy – when it is relaxed, it thrives. When it is under stress, its energy weakens.
As a woman, it is your job to learn how to step into your feminine energy. By doing so, you will magnetically attract high-value, masculine men who want to take care of you and make you feel like a princess. If you want to access the most powerful feminine energy tools and start attracting masculine men with ease then check out the Feminine-Masculine Attraction course.
THREE IMportant sides to a woman that all men crave
There are three sides to a woman that makes men see her as a High-Value Woman.
- Damsel in Distress
1) A Nurturer
This is a part of you that men want to see because it signifies a woman who accepts them unconditionally.
Here is the thing. Although most men can take care of themselves, they also have a vulnerable side– and they want you to see it and accept it. There are times when men want to be taken care of too and this is why a man wants a woman who is able to show selflessness.
Studies have shown that the top 3 professions that men prefer in a long-term partner are teacher, nurse, and chef. The implication is that men want the trait of someone who is nurturing and caring.
He wants a woman who is nurturing, supportive, and can show him unconditional love and stand by him no matter what. A man is inherently wired to need this in a woman.
The best way to show up is to be non-judgmental of a man and always connect with him from a place of love, rather than fear, which is what you will learn in Major Mistakes That 99% of Women Make With Men.
Nurturing is a feminine energy trait and so when a woman shows this trait she exudes a sense of warmth and openness and this attracts a man on a deep level.
She glows because she projects the energy of feminine warmth, joy, and comfort.
When a man sees this in you, it will subconsciously signal to him that he can trust you and devote himself to you. This is exactly what makes a man want to commit to a woman, rather than just have sex with her and move on.
However, there is also a danger in showing up as a “nurturing” figure.
You have to be careful not to overestimate the importance of the nurturer. If you take the idea of nurturing and caring for him too far and literally create a mother-child relationship (a mistake that many women make) – where you are the mother and he is the child, you will run into problems down the line. This is what many women do without even realizing it.
Taking the “motherly” factor too far means worrying too much about the little, day-to-day things. The things that he can take care of himself. Some examples of this are trying to fix all his problems for him, telling him to wear his jacket when it is cold outside, nagging him about eating his vegetables, and so on. These mundane things are not for you to worry about.
The problem with this behaviour is that it leads to a loss of attraction between two people.
This is because you are not attracted to a parent or a sibling – you are attracted to a A MAN! A hot-blooded, independent, confident, able to win the world MAN. Right?! You are attracted to a partner who is equally capable.
That is why you should never forget that he is a grown, able man and the more you treat him that way, the more masculine and confident he will show up for you (and the more respect you will have for him).
2) Damsel in Distress
When a woman is deeply caring, loving, and shows any kind of intense emotion – it shows her vulnerable side. This drives men to be attracted on a higher level than just a primitive, sexual one. It triggers his desire to commit, provide, and cherish a woman.
Why is the ‘damsel in distress’ a stereotypically attractive woman to a man?
It is not because he wants a weak woman to boost his ego and make him feel less insecure. A high-value man doesn’t want a woman who literally needs him to survive, but he does want a woman who is willing to let her guard down and make him feel as if he has a purpose in her life. At the same time, he has to sense that she is strong enough on her own and that she is worthy of his respect.
A woman that is vulnerable is a woman that men want to protect, love, and take care of because they see her as precious and needy (in a good way). When vulnerability is used in the right way, it triggers a man to commit like nothing else.
3) A Lady
The third side of you that he wants to see is that of a lady. A lady is what a high-value, high quality woman is all about. She accepts, respects and loves herself unconditionally.
This is the woman that a man feel both respect and attraction towards.
A lady is well-mannered. She treats others with respect and expects the same in return.
She knows how to communicate with men in a way that makes them feel good too – because she is considerate.
She knows how to set boundaries and show up with self-respect, while at the same time not being afraid to show her feminine side which is wildly attractive to men . If you want to learn how to set boundaries, build attraction, and talk to men in almost any dating scenario then you can get over 100 examples in Magnetically Feminine Boundaries.
Remember, lovely, attraction and love are not the same thing. Being physically attractive can actually be a negative thing if you want the man of your dreams to commit to you.
Ask yourself which woman would you rather be – the one he wants for one night, or the one he wants forever? It is all up to you.
Good luck and happy man hunting! Oh and if you want to learn how to navigate the dating process like a queen, stop chasing men and have them pursue you instead, the program How to Date Like a High-Value Woman is going to change the way you approach dating forever.
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